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Monday, July 26, 2010

Clay Modelling: Through The Eyes Of two Generations!


Before one year, I never even thought that, I’ll repeat the same lines that my parents told me. “In my childhood days I had to contend with this, that and what all God knows! Now, see what all luxuries you’ve got!" I told this line for the first time to little Shreya, when I picked the readymade clay for her.

“I used to make my hands dirty with the clay we used to pick the farm fields. We had to make dolls out of that, coloured them with rice, turmeric and green leaves. Now see, you are lucky enough to have readymade and colourful clay to play with!”

Little Shreya blinked at me with uncomprehending eyes. Now, well it is time for me to instruct her on little things.

The colourful clay boxes lay unopened for almost three weeks in Shreya’s cupboard. As she explored her other toys and sent one after another to the waste basket, the clay boxes had a safe position. So, I took responsibility to show her the first steps of clay modelling.

Now, as I opened the first box, a sudden flash of memories whipped me into my childhood. -Clay modelling was a trend among the children in our neighbourhood just as painting, drawing, sculpture etc. Being the two girls to represent the woman power in our neighbourhood, I and my sister had actively participated in these interests of boys in our company.

There was one boy named Biju who was a master in these arts. He always excelled in every art mentioned above. I used to envy as ducks, houses, birds and flowers got lives in clay through his fingers. He was also a good drawer and painter too. While others also fairly managed these arts, I was the weakling among them and the prime focus for others to feel confident about their own talents.

However, there were always elders in our neighbourhood to encourage my interests. They heartily congratulated me for making a ball out of clay while I actually made a human head or making a tray which I intended to become a flower etc. Soon, I realized these realms of arts are so sour and kept myself away from these. I became a good critic of these art forms in this process. -

Now, I found it time to try my hands at clay modelling again, to bring Shreya’s interest in this art. I really hoped that time must have ameliorated my skills. The model took form in violet and pink clay. I gave the final touches with the orange clay and showed the finished art form to Shreya.

Shreya was truly thrilled. She well-liked my art and clapped in appreciation while yelling ‘Kaakkaa”(Crow). “Hmmm... Not bad” I thought of myself! Even when two generations analyze my skill at clay modelling there is no change! I had intended to may make human figure and at least it turned out to be a bird for Shreya. I am happy.

P.S: As Shreya comes of age, I’ll definitely send her a good tutor to try her hands at clay modelling. If she turns out be like me, no worries! Then, daughters may not be like theirs mothers too....

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Sunday, July 25, 2010

Are You Feeling Guilty?

I don’t know whether this feeling got hold of me only or anyone else! For the past few months, at the end of each day, I used overwhelmed by this feeling-guilt!

Guilt on the fact that I left behind so many tasks unfinished- I haven’t played for a quality time with little Shreya, nothing has been studied as planned, no exercise has been done as planned, no prayers have been offered as planned, no phone calls been made as planned, nothing has been written as planned etc...

Guilt on the fact that I let my mood swings control me at many times-I yelled at Shreya for simple things, I let bad experiences from the past dominate my mind to screw up many of my quality time, I scorned my husband for things for which others were responsible, I hate people for forcing their opinions on me etc. Overall, by the end of the day, I felt tired of being guilty for making everything wrong!

I attributed this guilty feeling at first to my ‘new sitting at home’ status. Then, I started worrying about why this feeling ever let me free. I tried to distract myself by reading spiritual books, watching movies, cooking experiments and engaging completely in household chores. However, at the end of each day, the feeling of guilt grew stronger.

The situation got worsened by people who tried to force their way of living for me. Though, I didn’t seek opinion from anyone, many considered it as their duty to educate me on the roles of a homemaker as opposite to that of a career woman. I must confess that life was in a chaos at that time. I tried to perfect in everything and even a small suggestion for improvement made me nervous. I even started considering my life as futile and failure.

Thanks to the many books that I’ve read during this time, I decided to give myself a second try. As a first step, I avoided all the rules and regulations set to me by myself in order to please others. I was ready to become a ‘bad woman’ as some people might call me. I stopped making conversation with people who might crush my spirit, I started taking some leisure time of my own, I started viewing Shreya as another being, who can spend at least some time in a day by herself and finally I accepted myself with all my follies.

I realize that I am not an angel and not expect to make any mistakes. I am a common human being in flesh and blood, who cherishes the close knit family, rejoices the company of like-minded friends and loved ones, feels happy to get noticed, gets proud in own talents, keeps the grudge in mind, avoids people possessing nagging manoeuvres, hides the little inferiority complexes and over all learns many lessons through mistakes.

As of now, I am contend the way I am! Tomorrow, I may get again upset with these traits of mine and I may struggle to change myself also. However, I think, I’ve learnt the basic lesson now. Overcome the feeling of guilt! I don’t want anyone to consider me as angel with no follies. I have my negative side as well kept as my positive traits. I am not ashamed of that. More than that, I am proud about what I am and always will be.

P.S: I never wanted to write these feelings in public. However, as I was chatting with a younger (in age) friend of mine, she confessed many of her similar dilemmas to me. She says that she overcame those negative feelings after I shared mine with her. She asked me to write this and this is for you my dear friend 